Happy Monday! How was your weekend? Mine was the perfect balance. I stayed in on Friday and cooked and watched Grace & Frankie. (I also booked my May trip to London!) Saturday I went to the movies and saw Call Me By Your Name and then had a pizza and wine night at my friend Allie’s. Sunday was largely spent working but finished with cooking & watching the SAG Awards. I felt well rested yet productive.
I’ve spent a lot of time with various groups of girlfriends this month doing a lot of post-holiday season catching up and there’s been a topic that keeps coming up in conversation: the company we keep.
Some friends have declared 2018 the year they get rid of toxic friendships and others have said how they are being more protective of their time and who they gave it to. I am SO about this. I actually went through this awakening in my late 20s. I decided to stop spending time with people who I felt took, took, took and never gave. Or people that were constantly negative. Or gossiped incessantly. I stopped making myself available to these people because I got no value out of their presence in my life. And, subsequently, their energy was having a negative impact on me.
The older I get the more I’ve become aware that surrounding yourself with the right people can do for your psyche. I love the people in my life who are always up for brainstorming, for talking about goals and how to accomplish them. I value those whom are inspiring me by telling me what’s going on in their lives. I value the friends who listen intently and ask thoughtful questions. This is the type of friend I have always tried to be and I deeply respect the people in my life who reciprocate similar behavior.
Our time is so limited that we should be extremely protective of it. I’m so glad I no longer give my time to those who didn’t add value to my life and by doing so it freed up more availability to get together with the friends & acquaintances that really make me feel good, valued, heard, inspired, comfortable & respected.
With that I hope you have a wonderful week + that it’s spent with the type of people that will leave you feeling energized and happy!
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p.s. additional casual winter looks here, here & here and thoughts on making friends as an adult / when you move to a new city.